“The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him…’ But for Adam, no suitable helper was found.” —Genesis 2:18, 20
Nothing in all creation was “suitable” for Adam. If he merely needed a friend, God could have created another man. If he needed an extra pair of hands to work the fields, God could have created an army of Adams. He needed someone “suitable” (the Hebrew phrase ezer neged). Suitability was not an option but a unique and intended design. Just as God and man were perfect, woman and man would be suitable for one another and together would be perfectly in relational suitability with God. This is like gasoline being suitable for a gasoline engine. It is a fundamental design.
The creation of woman was not a matter of functionality but a creative design of suitability. Adam didn’t just need a womb to bear babies. Procreation was not the woman’s primary purpose. Neged roughly translates into “reflection; in front of; in the presence of.” The rest of creation could not become neged for Adam because it could not become one flesh with him or be his reflection. God made woman from man so the two could become one, reflecting one another and reflecting God. A creational polarity difference would bring man and woman come together in one flesh. The apostle Paul puts it this way: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her … For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” (Ephesians 5:25, 31-32).
The creation of woman involved far more than how she looked and what emotional or functional role she would perform. The suitability of the relationship between Adam and Eve was of far more significant. When two men or two women come together in order to attempt a one-flesh relationship, they are challenging a fundamental human design. It is not a political or religious or even a Christian issue, it is a fundamental human design issue.
A man/man, woman/woman, man/animal or woman/machine relationship, for instance, might fulfill the roles of body and mind at some level, but natural, human suitability will never be fully experienced. The fact that we have made homosexual and heterosexual marriage a matter of fulfilling roles is simply self-centered. Heterosexual marriage is no different than homosexual marriage if the only objective is to fulfill a physical and emotional need or raise a family. The uniqueness of a man and woman coming together goes beyond just fulfilling roles. Heterosexual or homosexual relationships will not satisfy humanity because we long for something more! We desperately try to substitute emotional love for spiritual love in an attempt to find true love. We confuse spiritual love for emotional love and wonder why religions of today, including Christianity, do not satisfy.
Adam’s love for Eve is the perfect reflection of God in the human relationship and, ultimately, is what Crossruption is all about. God loves us for who we are; not for what we do for Him.