Relationship with God is the fundamental design for humanity—life lived inside out. Adam lost his position as a son and Eve her position as a daughter, when they lost their ability to live in communion with God. Relationship first, position second. When the faculty that could relate to God—the spirit—died, so did their position as children of God. Relational death was the cause; positional death was the consequence. The dimension in mankind that could commune with God died. This led to the death of the relationship with God, which led to the death of the position as a child of God. Because of this, there is a sequential inside-out destruction that takes place in humanity. 

The man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” —Genesis 3:12

The loss of relationship with God brought about another tragedy. Adam had viewed Eve as “flesh of my flesh” and had been one with her, but suddenly she looked different to him. From “Wow, man!” to “Whoa! Man.” Essentially, Adam told God, “The problem is this woman you stuck me with!” Self-centeredness reigned, quickly becoming “every ‘man’ for himself.” 

Broken communion with God produced broken communion with Eve. Adam now viewed Eve as a third party. Once a blessing and someone of suitability, she became a burden and something to blame, someone to use and abuse. This loss of human identity meant a broken relationship with God and a broken relationship between Adam and Eve. 

Now Cain said to his brother Abel, “Let’s go out to the field.” While they were in the field, Cain attacked his brother Abel and killed him. Then the Lord said to Cain, “Where is your brother Abel?” “I don’t know,” he replied. “Am I my brother’s keeper?” —Genesis 4:8–9

Human conflict now extended beyond the generation of Adam and Eve, becoming the new identity of the fallen creation. The love relationship with God was broken. The human love relationship was broken. The loss of personal identity gave birth to corporate conflict. Disunity was a direct consequence of the loss of personal identity. When there is no experience of Christ’s sonship identity, there is disunity! 

The challenge for us, in recovering the original, is to remember our true identity as sons and daughters of God. In doing this, we will know the fulfillment of a relationship of intimate purpose in Him.